Dr. Steve's BLOG
Here I share my thoughts and insights that I believe can be helpful to you in your transformation process every month.
September 28th, 2024
BREAKTHROUGH energy warning signs
I wrote this after an incredible session with a fabulous client of mine, who emerged within her, an enormous amount of NEW ENERGY that is creating a very fun new baseline for her in her life. This is the summary of where 'all of us' can be, and how it's the perfect platform for you spiritual, psychological, and physical healing and growth.
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Here it is..I will call it... THE CALL
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Warning signs that you are sitting on the edge of a BREAKTHROUGH.-
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-You are just waking up and running through the motions-
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-Your life is seemingly ‘fine’, it’s okay, descent and often, good.
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- You sense there is something to be ‘birthed within you’ or ‘something more’ and yet can’t grasp it, speak of it, or even identify it.
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- You have mostly stable relationships which you feel ’safe’.
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- You have enough money to eat and pay bills and do some extras.
This is the new pain. It teeters on stability, good, and boring.
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The PAIN of autopilot;
- It’s good and predictable.
- It’s manageable and ‘reasonable’.
- It’s morally aligned
- It’s often flat.
- It’s being mentally justified that it ticks the boxes of a ‘good life’.
- How dare I strive for more
- Who am I to push for more when others have it worse.
- Why should I be in the have’s when there are so many have nots.
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This is the YOU that refuses to take the time to sort yourself out.
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You haven't sorted out the NEW IDENTITY and OBJECTIVES that will go beyond your stuck ordinary.
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The bridge between where you are and the other side is this
SOUL.
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This autopilot life needs more SOUL.
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This life requires more INTUITION, INTENTION, PURPOSEFUL ACTION, and SACRED RITUALS that magnify your gifts and talent.
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If this does not happen, you are vulnerable to ‘identity crisis’, frustration for no logical reason, feeling plateau, and an odd dislike or distaste for your life as usual; even though you ‘know’ you should be appreciative of what you have. The problem you are having, is that you already are appreciative for what you have, and so is life and the people around you, appreciative of you.
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Although where the system is going funky, is that there is a lack of true, consistent, robust, soulful energy. It is NOT being expressed in your everyday life, AND you can feel it, in subtle and not so subtle ways.
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And there is a part of you that knows you can express yourself in way bigger and bolder ways, you have so much more to accomplish, and so many more gifts to give.
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You set your life up to win at the minor leagues, which you did, and did very well.
NOW, there’s a deep call to step into the big leagues, and really show yourself, your family and the world around you, how this game is really played.
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It's time to NUKE your status quo.
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You have received the call. You are ready.​
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Dr. Steve
July 15th, 2024
I couldn't appreciate it at the time...
Ever said that?
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"I couldn't really appreciate that teacher at the time"...
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"I couldn't really appreciate that situation at the time"...
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The wisdom of the ages will tend to reveal to us the advantages that we received from having a person or situation in our life that we, at the time, were criticizing, demonizing, blaming, shaming, or resenting.
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Instead of requiring the wisdom of the ages to provide you with the insight 15-20 years down the line, what if you just listened to Steve and at the end of your day, look through your entire day, and experience gratitude and grace by seeing the advantages to you of each piece of life.
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If you don't like something, find how it serves you. Ask, "what am learning or how is it forcing me to grow?
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If you are happy something occurred, ask, "what is it reinforcing for me that is important?"
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There's an old saying, 'it's not what happens to you, it's how you interpret what happens that really matters."
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Conclusion: Meaning matters.
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And if you develop the skill to be able to pick apart the micro pieces of life, and reframe them, you hold a skill that I would honestly say .0000001% of the population practice.
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Good luck,
Dr. Steve
May 8, 2024
Many of us chase what we think we want while simultaneously tuning out to what we actually need to thrive.
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Although you can probably come up with a few other essentials that might fit your life, these 7 are pretty universal and cover a lot of territory.
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Here’s your practical quick checklist for thriving.
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Feel free to rate yourself on a scale of 1-10 with 10 being absolutely yes, and 1 being absolutely no.
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Do I breathe deeply and fully on a regular basis?
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Do I hydrate my body enough on a daily basis?
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Do I prioritize my sleep and set myself up for healing and recovery?
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Am I becoming ever more selective with the foods I consume?
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Am I continuously working on creating an environment in which I can thrive?
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Am I continuously growing my connection and relationship to self and others?
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Am I giving myself ever greater permission for self-expression?
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Life is busy and full. We, at times, need to stop, pause, and reconnect with high priority items.
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Have fun!
April 3, 2024
It’s not about your issues.
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It never is.
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It’s never about diseases, being broke, arguing, struggling.
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It’s never about the stuff.
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It ends up coming around to 1 thing.
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Who are you becoming because of it.
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What habits are you breaking?
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What rigidities are being shattered?
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What biases and beliefs are being up-ended?
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For you to grow and change, CHALLENGE is what stirs things up.
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HARDSHIP is the breakdown of what you think was important.
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It provides you with the opportunity to reshape how you think.
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If everything goes perfectly according to your plan, if everything is ‘hunky-dory’ then you go to sleep.
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You stop paying attention. You start doing low-priority stuff.
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You either want to go to sleep, or you want to stay alert in your life.
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Pick your challenges, choose your battles.
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Enjoy them. Value them. They keep you alive.
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You are still here, celebrate.
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Dr. Steve
March 28, 2024
We ran a workshop a month ago called Authentic by Design.
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It’s a workshop that wraps self-appreciation with considering the things that are truly most important to you.
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What seemed to be most consistent?
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There was very little to actually change.
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For most, one to four things over the course of a year was enough.
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The rest of the work was really about “BEING”.
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The work for most was about doubling down on expressing their appreciation and love they have for the people in their life.
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Yes, they identified the ‘things’ they would like to accomplish.
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And yet, those things were an expansion and a byproduct of expressing more LOVE for themselves.
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So the summary of the workshop was:
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Double down on expressing more LOVE to yourself by carefully selecting the things you want to accomplish that satisfy that love.
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Double down on expressing more LOVE to others by carefully selecting the actions you wish to express your love to them.
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​Pretty…damn…simple…
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On how to keep building an EXCEPTIONAL LIFE.
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Wash, rinse, repeat.
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Dr. Steve
March 13, 2024
Why worry about that if you can’t appreciate what you have right now.
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And I don’t mean, ‘yeah, yeah, I am appreciative’ attitude.
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I mean, heart moving, tear jerking appreciation for exactly as your life is right now.
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If you don’t have the skill to move yourself right now..
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If you lack the skill to go deep with yourself..
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Then once you get the new thing, it will quickly lose novelty and the chase goes on.
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You want to really be ready for something new?
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Train yourself to see the beauty and order and grace right now.
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In exactly who you are and what you have.
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Draw yourself into a state of awe for the life you’ve built.
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Invite yourself into a state of reverence for the people in your life.
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Because once you do, you will see NOTHING IS MISSING.
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And the ‘newness’ that you were getting pulled toward is right under your nose.
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That newness is both how you experience what you CURRENTLY have..
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AND that newness is the capacity to see how you’ve underutilized what you have.
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In the quest for something outside of yourself and your existing life.
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Get excited right now.
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Get pumped for your connections.
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Get jazzed for the resources you currently possess.
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Build anticipation for maximizing what you previously took for granted.
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Do this, and your life will become unstuck.
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Cheers to your progress.
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Dr. Steve
March 6, 2024
Lift your chest toward the ceiling.
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Tip your head back ever so slightly.
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Gently roll your shoulders back.
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Breathe up toward your face.
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This is the physiology of enhanced energy, excitement and enthusiasm.
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This is the posture of readiness.
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This is the structure that supports anticipation.
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Your eagerness for life, yes, it has a role in the mind.
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Yet without a posture and structure that is flexible and durable to support you,
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Your default setting will predict your quality of life.
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And the tighter, more restricted and rigid your spine,
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And the more curled in, defensive and guarded your posture,
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The more anxiety, depressiveness, and doubt you will experience.
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Let that system open up!
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Create the structure and posture that support energy, healing and wellbeing.
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And FEEL into it.
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Wash, rinse, repeat.
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Dr. Steve
February 28, 2024
Stillness in the spiritual community comes from a place of “non-doing”.
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It is idealized in sitting and attempting to ‘quiet the mind’.
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I would concur. There is a variation of stillness that comes from quiet contemplation.
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Yet an under-appreciated form of stillness comes from doing; doing what you love.
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When you are doing what you love, there is absolute stillness.
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A quieting of sorts or shall I say more of a contented mind.
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When I write, I am still. I am doing. I am relaxed. I am peacefully working it out.
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When I deadlift, I am relaxed, and pulsing, and doing and still all at the same time.
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Stillness can arise when participating in what you love.
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It’s a form of self-expression, beyond sitting on the yoga cushion, that can provoke a still mind.
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The two forms of stillness.
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There is a time to be yourself into stillness. (A top-down approach to stillness)
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There is a time to do yourself into stillness. (A bottom-up approach to stillness)
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Whatever your path, just know that both are available, and both are necessary to express an adaptable, optimal human being.
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If you can only still your mind when you sit, you’ve got a deficit, and you’re probably identified with ‘being spiritual’, not emphasizing doing what you love.
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If you can only still your mind when you are doing, you’ve got a different deficit and you’re probably identified with ‘productivity’ and devalue just sitting and being.
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Do both. Be nimble.
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See you next week!
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Dr. Steve
February 21, 2024
“The interference of the roof brain with the sexual function is peculiar to man and a source, as Freud never wearied of proclaiming, of much of what passes for “mental” illness. It seems to be characteristic of the human animal that it cannot accept its sexual function in the same uncritical way as it accepts its need for food and air. Both the intellectual and the emotional centres interfere with this function, and their interference, in many cases, is disastrous in its effects. Indeed, some of the most horrendous doings in the history of the “bloodstained hominid” (the witch hysteria of the sixteenth and seventeenth centuries, for example) were the direct outcome for the interference of these centres with the sexual function.”
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Robert De Ropp – The Master Game: Pathways to higher consciousness beyond the drug experience
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Most of society has been trained to only pay attention to our body when we are in pain.
We have quite the tainted relationship with it, and hence, hopefully a continued cultural interest of embodied self awareness practices grows such as somatic healing, wim hoff, yoga, tai chi, and other movement based practices.
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Being connected to the body is a gateway for your consciousness to express yourself, your needs, your ambitions, your desires, your intention, your purpose, your talents and skills.
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Being ‘embodied’ anchors experience from just a ‘concept’ into an actual experience.
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And most of us are trained to only be in our body when we have a problem.
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This training, in my humble opinion, is a big reason why distrust for the body exists…we don’t know it, we don’t have a relationship with it, and when we are forced to be ‘with it’ whether it be a sickness, illness or pain, we collectively are “out to lunch” and don’t know what to do.
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And since the relationship is off, we turn our power over to ‘authorities’ to tell us what’s wrong with us and what to do.
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And much of this slight resistance to a deepening of a relationship comes down to our relationship with the lower centres of energy, some of which involve our sexuality.
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I’m not a sex expert, nor claim to know all the nuances. I can, though, appreciate the deleterious effects of as De Ropp says, “…being raised in a culture which still tends to put sex in a big black box and hide it under the bed…”
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Secrecy, regardless of its context, is an energy of “rigid withhold”, and is embodied through a “tight mind, tight lips, tight being”.
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And the more you embrace all of your parts, and love all aspects of you, and not keep those secrets (from yourself), you open up to a new embodied energy source, connection to the body, and freedom from within.
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You may not need to ‘go after’ sexuality in and of itself. It may be more than enough to begin to just deepen the relationship with your body, breathing deep into the lower pelvis, feeling the body more and more of the time, and cultivating greater awareness for the body as a vehicle of consciousness and expression.
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That can be more than enough.
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In fact, it most likely is.
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Repetition wins.
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Connect, Feel, Breathe, repeat.
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See you next week!
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Dr. Steve​
February 14, 2024
Learning to listen to your body is a skill that helps you navigate life.
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Most of us won’t think of it that way.
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For most, it’s a meat-suit carrying a cranium of thoughts, that has little utility other than the mere performance of the tasks at hand.
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This next statement might sound like a far stretch, yet I’ve noticed that your body can be a reflection of how your mind interprets yourself and sees the world.
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It’s a measure of consistent thoughts and actions. It’s, literally, the habits of your life, on display.
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We all know that when someone goes on stage to flex their muscles, we can make some solid assumptions as to their level of dedication, devotion, commitment, discipline and value to craft their body into a sculptured architecture of lean muscle.
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The routine actions are not in question.
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Taking this assumption a little further, what does your body say about you?
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What does it say posturally?
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What does it say about your activity levels?
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Does it scream, “I am in pursuit of a life I love?”
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Does it say, “I love myself and my life?”
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Does it say, “I am eager to play life full out?”
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Is it rigid, flexible, flowing, lean, flabby, lethargic, tense, open, fluid?
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Your body, if you connect and befriend it, may give you hints as to what your next steps may be.
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I feel like I need more…
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My life needs more…
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My relationship needs more…
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Now mirror that back to your body and go to work on it.
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For example, “I think I need more confidence in myself.”
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Okay then, how do you create confidence in your body?
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“Well, I would need to stand taller, walk faster, hold my head higher.”
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Good, then start your training in your body.
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“I need to be less anxious.”
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Okay then, how do you create relaxation in the body?
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“Well, I would need to breathe slower, soften my shoulders, relax my face, lay down.”
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Good, then start your training in your body.
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Want more adventure? How would you create that in the body?
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Want more abundance? How would you create that in the body?
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Want more organization? How would a more organized body look?
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The playfulness of this idea suggests that it can be fun to transform your life, that you can use the body as a vehicle, and that empowerment can come in various forms.
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Sometimes, we need a little prompt like this, to think outside the box.
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And to listen, really listen to the needs of your life, requires you to silence yourself long enough to listen to what you really want and to ask amazing questions.
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See you next week!
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Dr. Steve
February 7, 2024
Inner peace is a side effect of being in equity with yourself, others and the world around you.
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In the process of acting in the world, and exchanging with others, our brain is designed to keep inventory just like in accounting.
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It is constantly calculating the exchanges we have with others.
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How we feel can be broken down into a simple debt-surplus ratio from our minds, of what we think we owe others, or what we think others owe us.
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Perfect harmony and equity; love, inner peace, appreciation, gratitude, owing; resentment, anger, bitterness, guilt, shame, sorrow, sadness
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When I coached Sandra, we went through her most important relationships that were distressful. She was wildly emotional about her past and distraught she had such a miserable upbringing. She had been in therapy for years trying to heal her relationship with her father. Most of that was trying to understand why he did what he did, and find reasons for his behaviour; to justify the pain she felt. When we began to look deeper, at the details of the relationships, we revealed that they actually were in perfect harmony and fair exchange, the entire time, for nearly 50 years.
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When we coached her, we had her reveal to herself that they challenged and supported each other equally, going back and forth with various actions, in equal proportion.
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When she revealed that to herself, when she saw and felt the balance of ‘give and take’, and that ‘nobody owed anything to anyone’, her feelings changed as her mind changed, and she felt peace, love and completion.
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Our bodies and brains are designed to give us feedback with symptoms when we are out of flow and sync with this natural law of reciprocity.
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When we looked at her EEG brain patterns before and after, her brain transformed from a “pre-dementia pattern” to a “healthy and adaptable pattern” in the brain.
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She went from daily brain fog and low energy and motivation, to clear-headed, graceful and re-invigorated energy.
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The results both objectively and subjectively, were transformational.
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This is the power of inner peace…through fair exchange…through asking good questions.
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When you take the time to dig into the facts, and not the feelings, your feelings can change as you learn new information and reveal ignorances that once seemed so right.
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Inner peace is just a handful of questions away.
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See you next week!
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Dr. Steve
January 31, 2024
Typically, January is an expression of hope.
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It’s taking all of your life-long or year-long judgements of yourself (things you think you should have done, didn’t do, or wish you did) and sandwiching them all in an aggressive and intensive 31-day cycle.
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Then, when you don’t pull it off, February follows so you can get slightly depressed only to be soothed by the sugary chocolate of Valentine’s Day, and to have those around you remind you that you are worthy, loved and loveable despite your flaws…
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Am I off?
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Maybe…
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Slightly dramatic?
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Okay, maybe a tinch…
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But probably not too far off from many people’s reality.
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Here’s a thought on how to approach the new year.
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Find grace.
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Find what you love.
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Express that.
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Forget about 2023.
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It is merely a figment of your imagination.
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You have skills you excel at, amplify those.
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You have dark areas of your psyche, acknowledge those.
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Go do you, to the fullest. That’s what we care about anyway.
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See you next week!
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Dr. Steve
January 24, 2024
These are legit.
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They feel good.
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They are inspiring to others.
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They light up your own energy.
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They change your neurochemistry toward love.
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They open your heart.
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They balance the brain.
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They benefit the giver and receiver.
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They add spontaneity and novelty to life.
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The great part about RAOK, is that it doesn’t matter so much of the action.
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It’s more of the intention that ripples for everyone to enjoy.
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It’s part of our core nature and essential need to contribute to people’s lives.
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RAOK go a long way to enhance the wellbeing of humanity.
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Enjoy : )
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See you next week!
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Dr. Steve
December 20, 2023
It could be said that you rise for a challenge or you get excited and look forward to an upcoming event.
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But what if you got eager and excited just because?
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It might sound a little immature for some people, yet I will tell you, that the people in my practice that
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Can hold an energy of eagerness and enthusiasm for life without the need for prompting from the external world, tend to be overall, more resilient.
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Waking up, ready to go.
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Anticipating goodness…just because.
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Spring in their step, because they can.
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Going for a walk, because why not?
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Going above and beyond, because that’s what they do.
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When people have trained themselves to be ALIVE..
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And to EXPRESS LIFE..
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Because they are ALIVE..
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This Is a sign of mastery.
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Can you do it?
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Can you fully express your ALIVENESS?
October 25, 2023
Does anyone out there remember that old Mars Bar commercial?
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🎵 “A Mars Bar a day helps you work, rest and play.” 🎵
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Well, I’m not suggesting you eat a Mars Bar every day…
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But I am curious to know if you’ve been making time every day to focus on work, rest and play.
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Here’s a few ways you can implement this little jingle without actually eating a Mars Bar:
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–Work-
How are you magnifying your capacity to express your talents, skills and expertise?
How are you stepping up and participating in serving others?
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–Rest–
How are you magnifying your capacity to surrender, allow, relax, rejuvenate?
How are you stepping up to claim your own space for deeper healing and empowerment?
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–Play-
How are you magnifying your capacity to open up, express joy and feel energy?
How are you stepping up to ignite creative ideas and enjoy things that light up your soul?
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Nothing like using an old Mars Bar commercial to reevaluate life.
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– Dr. Steve
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P.S: If you can’t recall the commercial I’m talking about, check it out here.
October 18, 2023
In the remaining fall days, we naturally look to prepare our energy for the upcoming winter.
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“What do I need to let go of?”
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“What no longer serves me?”
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“What no longer serves us?”
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“What can I release to prepare me for what’s next?”
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These questions serve as placeholders.
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Placeholders for the mind to scan and evaluate your life.
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It’s a magnificent time to free more energy that has been BOUND in the bodymind without a place to move.
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Share your closet of clothes with your neighbours.
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Let go of a new idea into the world.
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Start a blog. Share your voice.
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Record a podcast.
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Give a hug and let go of your defences.
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Buy something for yourself and recirculate money in the economy.
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Letting go doesn’t have to be emotional baggage.
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Letting go is a natural part of everyday life,
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Of, literally, every moment of life.
October 11, 2023
I ask this question regularly to clients.
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And most of us suck at answering it.
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Because the brain is so habituated to seeing what you don’t want, most people have mastered that question.
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When I ask “what do you want?”
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And then they say,
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“I don’t want to be tired anymore”
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“I don’t want to be in a pain anymore”
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“I don’t want to be in debt anymore”
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And then I ask, “well, what do you want?”..
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Most pause, in a temporary state of confusion, because they aren’t used to asking themselves that question.
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And it’s not that they don’t know what they want.
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They just don’t claim it.
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And since they don’t claim it, their brain keeps focusing on the problem and how they don’t want that problem to persist.
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You see what I’m saying?
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Clarifying what you want, will be your next step from being a victim in any area of your life.
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You can start with what you don’t want, then, from that, claim what you DO want.
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Go.
October 4, 2023
Find 5 moments where you think you are being productive.
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Now look at those moments, and ask yourself, “where am I being lazy at the same time?”
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I’ve done this with thousands of clients, and the same damn thing happens every single time.
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They find, that in moments they judged themselves as productive, they were simultaneously lazy in another area of their life.
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Why does it matter?
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Because when you break the dual structure of the mind, you free yourself of a judgement, you release new brain energy and unstick a part of you that was stuck in a bias.
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AND THE BIGGEST REALIZATION YOU HAVE, IS THAT YOU CAN’T AVOID BEING “LAZY”.
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For most, this post is going to fly over your head like NOT THAT BIG A DEAL.
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But for those people that absolutely HATE the idea of themselves being lazy, this type of exercise is WILDLY LIBERATING.
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Most of my clients burst into laughter that they have held the lifelong belief that they can actually be one-sided, and avoid another side of them.
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When they truly see this truth, they free themselves of their own slavery and baggage of attempting to be half a human.
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They are further freed to keep going along with life, without trying to prove THAT THEY AREN’T LAZY.
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And this, is how you let go, of old, outdated ideas about yourself.
September 27, 2023
Get caught up on your ‘to-do’ list.
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Yes, it may sound silly.
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But when your list starts to pile, our sympathetic, fight or flight system begins to elevate, the mind starts to feel the threat of overload.
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Your mind races faster, your thoughts become more distracting, your focus becomes more scattered, and you become more agitated.
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By knocking off ‘to do’ items, you release some of the fight/flight load each time you do.
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You access more parasympathetic, rest, relax pathways,
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You access a deeper breath, and you feel more relieved.
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When you complete the list, and feel caught up, your breath will begin to RE-REGULATE to a balanced, coherent pattern, and you will feel more inner peace with the world around you.
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That is worth getting your “to-do” list done.
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Now, this isn’t what life is about necessarily.
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This may not be taking into account other questions.
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Like, why take so much on, what are you doing it for, are the things on the list actually high priority, or are you just distracting yourself by being busy…
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Those questions are for another time.
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This is more of a real anxiety-reducing, utility exercise that can justify finishing your list…
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AND CELEBRATING when it’s done.
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Then, do it all over again.
September 20, 2023
I’ve heard this a thousand times in consultations.
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“I’m feeling stressed or overwhelmed but I don’t know what to let go of..”
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Think of a trapeze bar or if you have ever swung on monkey bars.
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You’re thinking about which bar you are grabbing next.
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And if you aren’t sure which bar you are grabbing next,
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OR
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You’re unsure if you can reach the next bar,
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YOU HANG ON to the one you are on…
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You DON’T let go.
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And the only reason you don’t let go is because you aren’t certain of the next bar.
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OR
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You don’t think the next bar is achievable.
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So, my suggestion is, don’t let go of anything right now.
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Hang on.
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And while you are hanging on,
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Clarify your next bar.
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Clarify your next bar, and the steps that go with it so you know you can achieve it.
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Then, and only then, can you let go.
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And you let go, as a result, of clarifying
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And seeing the steps to the next bar.
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See, you don’t need to know what to let go of.
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Enjoy clarifying : )
September 14, 2023
If you’re alive and reading this right now, you are committed to something.
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I watch clip after clip of people using the word “commitment” to achieve.
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Essential.
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So if you question whether you are a committed individual, look no further than your own life to answer the question.
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What are you committed to?
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When you wake up in the morning, what are you thinking about?
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When you wake up in the morning, what is your mind attempting to align your behaviour to?
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Example: “When I wake up in the morning, I’m thinking about coffee.”
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Great, you are committed to what? Elevating your energy.
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“When I wake up in the morning, I’m thinking about my kids’ needs.”
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Great, you are committed to what? Your kids.
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Your mind has a hierarchy of values that is committed to fulfilling itself.
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Your mind is committed to fulfilling what’s most important to you.
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Therefore, your mind will have you think about, and act, on things that are most important.
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You can bet you are constantly and consistently committed to what is most important to you.
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And you can’t avoid it.
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So when you compare yourself to what other people are doing, or certain ‘successes’ they have achieved and think that your ‘successes’ are less than theirs, you will beat yourself up BELIEVING that you aren’t as committed as them.
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And, that’s just bullshit.
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That’s a lie you are telling yourself.
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You are wasting your time.
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This is where journaling and tracking your behaviour can come in handy.
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Find out what your life demonstrates you are committed to.
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Where you do it over and over and over again, until you see, that your life, is a demonstration of your unwavering commitment to what is most important.
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That’s where you will see your magic, your genius and your GREATNESS.
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And if you track your behaviour day to day, you will begin to the see the patterns of exactly what you are committed to.
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And I mean, DEEPLY committed to.
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Like most, you are doing you…and you take yourself for granted.
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Go in, see where you are committed in life, acknowledge that it’s perfect for you and let go of what you think you should or shouldn’t be doing.
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Love yourself for your commitment to your highest values.
September 6, 2023
Here’s when you can bet YOU AREN’T being authentic:
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When you’re talking about someone and thinking they should be different.
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When you’re talking about yourself and thinking you should be different.
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So, how much of your weekly conversations does that cover?
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17 years ago, I had my mind blown, that all of us have ALL parts.
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Parts that tell the truth, parts that lie.
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Parts that are selfish, parts that are selfless.
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Parts that are strong, parts that are weak.
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And intuitively I knew this, but part of me resisted the acceptance of it.
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Who the hell wants to admit part of them is compulsive or stupid?
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Ugh…no one….hahahah.
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Anyways, close to 4500 human traits within each of us, each with their opposites.
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WE HAVE BOTH SIDES.
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And the outside world gives us triggering feedback to let us know what part of us we have yet to love.
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That power hungry politician you hate? Yup.
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That obtuse professor that annoys you? Yup.
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That nagging spouse that is irritating? Yup.
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They all serve a purpose to expose your inner weakness, AND that weakness is revealing to you the parts that you still don’t love about yourself.
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Sometimes you’re nice, sometimes you’re mean.
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Sometimes you’re generous, sometimes you’re stingy.
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Sometimes you’re pleasant, sometimes you’re nasty.
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Authenticity then, is being HONEST with yourself.
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That you have all parts…and nothing is missing.
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You have both sides.
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And so does every other person on the planet.
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And the expectation that you OR someone ‘should’ express ONLY ONE SIDE, is the disease of authenticity…
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Because ONE SIDED thinking of yourself or others is a distortion of the truth..
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It’s a lie.
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Oh yeah, one last triggering remark..
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Part of you is a liar.
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Have a great week accepting your full self.
August 30, 2023
Can you look at your symptoms as an adventure?
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I can hear it now…Dr. Steve…really?
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For most people that I have seen over the years, they rarely, if ever truly connect to their body in a meaningful way.
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And not that they need do, it’s just when they have symptoms, a very common experience as they are forced to pay attention to their body is,
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“I can’t believe how I let myself go”
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or “I can’t believe how I have gained weight”
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or “I can’t believe I haven’t worked out in weeks”
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or “I knew I should have been stretching” etc etc…
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So there is evidence to have me conclude to some degree, that connecting with your body IS part of the point of a symptom.
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You maybe can think of it as a call to return you into the home in which YOU reside.
Teaching breath-work classes over the years, I have noticed this same thing in workshops.
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Even without necessarily the presence of symptoms, when people pause long enough from normal life, to reflect and connect to the body and breath, emotions arise, the mental chatter slows, they remember what life is about…weird stuff like that…
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All from paying attention to their body.
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So I propose this.
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If you have a symptom or you know those with symptoms, go on an adventure.
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Place your hand on the symptoms, whether it’s a big toe, a neck a jaw, and JUST SIT WITH IT with YOUR HAND ON IT.
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Don’t try to run from it, get rid of it, or do anything with it.
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Instead, adventure with it.
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Talk to it.
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Sing with it.
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Laugh with it.
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Yell at it.
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Ask questions like, “what do you want me to do?”
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Befriend it.
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I assure you. Something will shift.
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You are going counter-culture with your approach to befriend it, instead of it being your dreaded enemy.
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And since you may be habituated to making every symptom your enemy, give yourself a little grace time, and a few repetitions to get some value.
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You may find, when you change to more of an adventurous approach, from ENEMY to ALLY, your system may just provide you with some pretty amazing feedback to reward you for being more playful.
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All the best,
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Dr. Steve
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P.S. Stay Playful
August 23, 2023
Chances are, adventure has taken a back seat to the habits of life.
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The routine, the mundane, the ‘teeth brushing, face washing’ habits of everyday life.
Our brain grows and literally builds new neurons when novelty is introduced.
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Novelty to the brain, something new in your experience, neuroplasticity in the science world,
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IS to the average person,…ADVENTURE.
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Adventure is novelty, and most people forget to infuse this regularly in their life.
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EXCEPT novelty and adventure doesn’t necessarily have to be DOING something different.
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And it doesn’t mean climbing a mountain or going for a hike
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You can change the STYLE in which you do it.
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Let me explain…
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It can mean finding novelty and adventure in the actual routine of your day.
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Any part of your day can be an adventure, because part of it is an attitude.
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You can drag yourself or walk or dance into the kitchen.
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You can lay in bed or cuddle or have sex or make love.
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You can write an email with pure fact, humour, tenacity, exclamation marks!
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Consider adventure is all around you, yet your capacity to be fully present with a larger contributing energy may be the adventure you are missing out on.
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Go climb a mountain and embrace petting the dog with a similar adventurous attitude.
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Adventure may depend more on your state and attitude, rather than location or action itself.
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It starts with an awareness, an intention and an attitude.
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Go make life what you would love to experience
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Dr. Steve
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August 16, 2023
Have you stopped singing a full range?
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Imagine for a moment that you were listening to a song that had the same sound the entire length of the song.
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Imagine for a moment, that the music stayed on the same note.
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Do you think that might get boring?
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So why do you think so many people strive to be happy?
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That’s one range; one note.
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When I talk with so many parents, they get this culturally trained level of thinking such as, “I just want my kids to be healthy and happy.”
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Inside I’m thinking, ‘so you want them to play 2 notes their entire life?”
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Hmmmmm…..
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I’ll leave you with that.
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Enjoy your week!
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Dr. Steve
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P.S.- details matter. I would consider taking time to explore what “happy” actually means, and if you allow yourself to meditate on it, I think you will find it maybe goes beyond what a 3 year old happy looks like.
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P.P.S- updating your mind and beliefs is valuable to do as you get older.
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P.P.P.S: Check out my latest Embodied Education Zoom class on ​How to Turn Your ADHD Brain Into Your Best Friend
August 9, 2023
I remember years ago at my sister’s wedding in Mexico, I was assigned to deliver a speech.
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For some reason, my stomach felt awful the day of the wedding. It’s like I got whacked with some ‘bug’.
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So I was laying on my bed while some of the wedding was going on, debating in my mind whether or not I could pull this off.
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I really did feel horrible.
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There was no way I could get up.
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I literally went to the bathroom numerous times because I thought I was going to vomit.
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Then, something in me saw my sister, my responsibility, my family, and that really only me was the one to give the speech I envisioned, so I just said, ‘get up and go give the speech.’
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In that moment of decision, I moved.
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I walked down to the lobby, set up for the talk, gave the presentation, and absolutely danced the night away with my family. I am telling you, untapped, liberated energy all night long.
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It was such an incredible learning lesson.
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When I am in my own ‘shit’, suffering ensued,…AND IT WAS REAL for that version of me.
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When another part of me found a reason that served many people, energy and purpose ensued…AND IT WAS REAL for that version of me.
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So what’s real?
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BOTH.
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So, knowing both are real, now I have a choice.
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And so do you..
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Dr. Steve
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P.S: If you would have told the suffering Steve that he needed to do a speech, he would have told you to F-off.
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P.P.S: So when I say ‘you have a choice’ I am speaking only to the empowered version of you.
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P.P.P.S: Let’s make some magic
P.P.P.P.S: Check out my latest Embodied Education Zoom class on The End of Suffering here
August 2, 2023
You know what’s fascinating?
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The fact that you store billions of years of information in your brain and nervous system.
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That you are made of stardust and the fundamental particles of the universe.
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That 99.99% of all your bodily functions and survival needs are delegated to your unconscious.
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…And that people still think you can’t heal pain, fibromyalgia, immune disorders, arthritis…
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…that anxiety, depression, sadness, or some other condition just falls out of the sky and it’s merely bad genes or bad luck…
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As Joe Biden says, ‘c’mon man’.
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You are built for resilience.
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You are built for health.
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You are built for thinking clearly.
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You are built for longevity.
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You are built to play out full energy.
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Let’s tap into more.
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Reach out and let’s see what you’re made of.
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Dr. Steve
July 13, 2023
I wanted to share something amazing with you.
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We just had someone come into our office and they were struggling with their energy and feeling so lethargic after some devastating losses in their life.
She was also noting memory loss, and other signs of accelerated aging.
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When we measured brainwave activity, we found that around the 10 minute mark of testing, her beta brainwaves that are designed to keep her conscious and alert, were actually disengaging and she was beginning to tune out as though she had ADD (attention deficit disorder)
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This is a clear sign that she’s in an exhausted brain pattern, and we are now able to take the steps to get her BODY and BRAIN unhooked from the pattern that ails her, and completely change the course of her health future.
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It will be a bit of a journey, but now we are confident to know exactly where she is and where she wants to be.
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We are using holistic adjusting to release old blocks and breathwork to unleash stale and stagnant energy. We are implementing coaching for her to find herself again, recapture her self worth, and design the next phase of life which will be LESS exhausting and MORE inspiring.
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See you soon,
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Dr. Steve
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